Once upon a time, scientists believed the world was flat. Makes sense, I guess. It looks pretty flat from where I’m standing. It seems like a fair belief. It was definitely a safe belief.
It was also a belief that kept far too many people confined to the shore.
Because of a belief, our vast planet was left mostly undiscovered for many years. That is, until Pythagoras rocked up and questioned everything. Once the belief was finally challenged, only then did we take leaps and bounds in revealing more of what our world comprised of.
Imagine if all those years ago, we stuck to our beliefs and never ventured out past the horizon. What if beliefs weren’t continually challenged again and again throughout time? Where would we be?
It’s almost as if beliefs were made to be disputed.
Here’s one of my beliefs for you to ponder:
The experiences we create for ourselves mirror our beliefs.
That’s great! …If you’re the Dalai Lama. I think it’s fair to say that the majority of us possess a few beliefs that don’t serve us whatsoever. The scary thing is, we don’t even realize it. That’s the funny thing about beliefs. We grow up learning different ideas about the world from those around us, and our beliefs simply become a part of who we are. It’s not until we start questioning whether or not our beliefs are helping or hindering us, that we really start to take notice of exactly what they are.
So today, we question.
Are your beliefs limiting or expansive?
Limiting beliefs make up that metaphorical box that we’re always being encouraged to think outside of. They restrict what we think we can do. They keep us in a place that we perceive as safe. But, inside of the safe box isn’t where our best life is lived.
If we break down those restrictive walls, we unveil boundless opportunity. A whole new world of options open up where we can pick and choose exactly what we want out of life and we can begin to create it.
Here are some examples of limiting and expansive beliefs, as well as the experiences we may create for ourselves that reflect those beliefs:
Limiting belief: If I want to be rich, I must work a high-paying corporate job for 60 hours a week for many years.
Created experience: Enrol in a University course you’re not passionate about. Gain that entry-level job. Scratch and claw your way to the top over many years. Come home exhausted each night. Wake up early and do it all again until you reach that salary, then keep going.
Expansive belief: To reach financial freedom, I must provide a service or product for others to make their life better in some way, and ask for a price that reflects the value I provide.
Created experience: Enrol to study something I’m truly passionate about, and continue my learning in that area on a continual basis. Create or find a job that allows me to provide the product or service that I believe in. Earn a living in that field of work that reflects who I am. Know that there are absolutely no limits to where I can take this product or service. Work to continually grow and expand. Live a life of fulfillment.
If we want all of our beliefs to be expansive, then we need to start today.
Step 1: Determine your limiting beliefs.
Start with setting some time aside and writing down as many as you can.
Think about the negative things you say to yourself:
“I’m not smart enough to study this.”
“I don’t have what it takes to run my own business.”
“True love doesn’t exist, I just have to settle.”
Think back to when you were a child and you heard the same line out of your parent’s mouth again and again.
“I need to work long hours if I want to put food on the table and take you to the movies this weekend.”
“Money is the root of all evil.”
“If you want a good job, you need to get good grades so you can get into university.”
“Our family are prone to weight gain and heart disease.”
Think about the areas of money, success, relationships, and health.
Think about the excuses you always make.
Think about the areas in your life you always complain about – there is probably a limiting belief there, stopping you from moving forward.
Step 2: Understand that beliefs are NOT truths.
Like I said before, beliefs are made to be disputed. Beliefs are often mistaken for truths, but they are most certainly NOT. If you want to change your life, then you need to change your beliefs and you need to know that is absolutely IS possible.
Some of the most horrible dictators in history made horrific decisions and took action based on their beliefs and deeming them to be truths. They were wrong, and society paid for it.
If you make decisions and take action on the limiting beliefs that you believe to be true, then you’ll pay for it, too. Don’t hold on to what doesn’t serve you, no matter how long your beliefs have been with you. Move forward and let them go.
Step 3: Create expansive beliefs for yourself.
Take all of the beliefs that you wrote down in step 1 and change them in a way that creates absolutely no limitations. Write your new beliefs down.
Old belief: “I’m not smart enough to study this.” New belief: “I can do anything I put my mind to.”
Old belief: “True love doesn’t exist, I just have to settle.” New belief: “True love exists and will happen for me when the time is right.”
Old belief: “Money is the root of all evil.” New belief: “Money is simply a resource to do good.”
Step 4: Take action.
Write underneath each old belief:
“Does this belief provide any secondary benefit?” i.e. perceived safety, avoiding stepping out of your comfort zone, avoiding effort.
“What outcomes has this belief brought me to date?”
Write underneath each new belief:
“What can I gain from adopting this new belief?”
Use your new beliefs as daily affirmations.
Repeat your new belief whenever an old belief begins to surface. Say it and visualize it enough times that it begins to feel like reality.
You can gain so much by simply becoming aware of your current beliefs, and working to change them. Start small. Don’t overwhelm yourself. Choose one belief to focus all of your energy on and once you feel comfortable, built up from there.
As an added benefit, creating new, expansive beliefs for yourself means that your children will grow up with those expansive beliefs, too. Check out my last blog explaining how the habits and beliefs that children learn from their parents will help to shape the rest of their lives.
Remember, once you have your new beliefs, it’s okay to challenge them again.
Never stop asking yourself, ‘How can it get better than this?’
Love & Happiness
P.S Check out my YouTube channel (IHH Me Monday Episode 2) to work through your limiting beliefs around money! In under 5 minutes you will learn how to begin to bring financial freedom into your life.
P.P.S Do you know someone who could really benefit from reading this? To give them the motivation and push they need to make a difference in their own lives and the lives of the young people around them? Share this post with them. Even if they don't embrace it straight away, you've done your part. Thank you.
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