We all know what we need to do to improve our lives. We need to get that amazing morning routine going. Write in our gratitude journals when we wake up. Exercise for 30 minutes straight after. Meditate.
Or, you know, we could just lie here where it’s warm and cozy for another 20 minutes and mindlessly scroll Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and let’s not forget to watch our Snapchat and Insta-stories…
We know what we need to do, but DOING is the hardest part!
I know for a fact that I’m not the only one who avoids doing what I know I should be doing. I’m not the only one who procrastinates on social media. I’m definitely not the only one who has a brain that likes to talk me out of the things I planned. If I had a dollar for every time I justified being lazy...
So, why does our brain do that when it knows taking action on certain things will benefit us?
Well, our brains are hardwired to believe that anything that’s different in our routine; a little bit out of our comfort zone; or slightly uncomfortable = DANGER. Staying in our warm bed and keeping well within our comfort zone = SAFE.
But let me tell you, that ain’t livin’.
Our caveman brains are still trying to protect us from hungry tigers. Little do they know, our biggest concern right now is our coworker pre-morning coffee.
If there’s one thing I’ve come to understand, it’s that nothing changes if nothing changes.
Want life to be better? Change something. But, I get it, that’s easier said than done.
Let’s take a moment to look at a time we avoided doing something to benefit ourselves. Did you skip the gym yesterday? Choose a doughnut over an apple? Sit inside all day while the sun shone?
In that moment, were you being led by your feelings, or were you being led by your thoughts? Maybe you didn’t feel like exercising, you didn’t feel like the healthy option, or you didn’t feel like taking your lunch break outside.
Deep down, you know those weren’t the best decisions for you, right? How long did you go back and forth in your head tossing up what to do? How many times did you go to take the doughnut, but then pull away last second (until you ultimately gave in)? How long did you spend justifying your decisions after the choice was made?
Your feelings won. Feelings always win.
We have to stop being led by our feelings and take control of our thoughts and actions instead.
Life improves the moment you take action on what you’re avoiding.
Today, I avoided. I write this at 9:45am on a morning that I skipped my 7:15am Hot Pilates class, and I feel really crap about it. As I lay in my bed this morning, my feelings were telling me that I’m tired, I need more sleep, I can’t be bothered, I don’t feel like the 40 degree heat this morning (or any morning… Let’s be real).
My thoughts were telling me that my body deserved better. My thoughts were telling me that my membership was going to waste every time I skipped a class. My thoughts were telling me that I was being lazy and had no excuse to skip the class.
The internal back-and-forth went on for a while, and now I’m sitting here with a tight chest, full of regret for not going. I keep thinking I should at least get out my yoga mat and smash out a 30-minute session now in between work. My feelings are telling me that I can’t be bothered. I’m justifying it by saying, “I need to keep working now I’ve started.” The struggle continues, but it has to stop.
Life improves the moment you take action on what you’re avoiding.
It’s now 10:50am. Yoga = done. I did it, but do you see that countdown? I had help from a little trick I learned recently.
The 5 Second Rule.
It’s funny how 5 simple numbers can have such a profound affect on taking action. I’ve actually known it for years – counting down from 5 is like the magic spell to get kids to do what you say.
“Oliver, come speak to me, please! 5…4…3…2… Thank you. Can you tell me why you put Jake’s pencils up your nose?”
I feel like the countdown is my savior during school days when a Yr 1 student is running around swinging a cricket stump, or about to throw another child’s hat on the roof. Yet, I had no idea that I could also use it on myself.
Mel Robbins is one of the most sought-after public speakers in the world, and came up with The 5 Second Rule. The idea behind it is that we often try to control our feelings, rather than our thoughts. After 5 seconds of deliberation, our feelings have won the fight. The trick is to not let our feelings gain power. We need to take action on our thoughts as soon as we have them, and refuse to give our feelings a chance to catch up! A little impulsive, I know, but it’s a rule that has been scientifically proven to work.
Here’s a clip of Mel Robbins talking about the science behind the rule:
So, there it is. The trick to taking action. The trick to progressing your life. The trick to living the life you always wanted.
Next time you have something you need to do, count down.
Take control of your thoughts and take control of your life. You can always choose how you behave. It’s entirely up to you.
Love & Happiness
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